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Men! Your lover wants an orgasm during your lovemaking!
Though she may not want to come every time you make love, she certainly isn't going to be too pleased if sex finishes when you've ejaculated, rolled over and gone to sleep! The surest way to ensure her sexually contentment is to make sure she's had an orgasm before you come. There are several sex positions which are more likely to make this happen. So, without further ado, here's our suggested list of positions that will let her get the pleasure she craves, while making sure you don't miss out on your orgasm!
First, if you haven't tried sex in the woman on top, then check it out! Many women like having the upper hand, so to speak, when it comes to enjoying sex - it's a position that permits them to move in the way that gives them the greatest pleasure, whether that's through clitoral stimulation or vaginal stimulation. She can rock her hips and pelvis much more in this position, and because she's in control of her movements, she's likely to get some orgasmic satisfaction. She can either press her clitoris against the shaft of your penisgrind it against your pubic mound, or lean back or forwards so that her G spot gets pressure it needs to give her pleasure. If you can last long enough before you ejaculate, this is the sex position that gives her the greatest chance of attaining orgasm during intercourse.
If she wants to increase the sensations in her vagina, she can squeeze your penis with her PC muscles: that will increase your pleasure, and it will certainly add to the pressure on her G spot - and most likely increase the chances of her having an orgasm and also ejaculating when she reaches orgasm. (Female ejaculation is the subject of another article - but basically, if her G spot is stimulated for long enough, and in the right way, when she reaches orgasm, the fluid that collects in glands around her urethra will squirt out during her orgasmic contractions.)
And one other advantage of woman on top lovemaking is that you can see her breasts, and caress them as she rides your penis. Of course, if she's facing away from you, you can see her buttocks as she moves. But a lot of men find this position, (when she faces away from the man,)uncomfortable because it bends the penis too much.
And what next? Well, the good ol' missionary position. But before you groan, think again. Many women love missionary position sex, because it allows for those deep moments of intimacy and connection that women adore. And men like the position too! Sex in the man on top position, when the woman has her legs bent upwards, her knees near her chest, allows for deep penetration and lots of loving feeling. Even better, if you have an erection which curves upwards, as many do, then man on top variations will allow your penis to stimulate her G spot as you make love. Combine this with a little clitoral play, perhaps by placing a vibrator between you both as you make love, and you have the best of all possible worlds for her!
Even better, you can stop thrusting, and move your hips in a circular pattern. The penis moves in a very satisfying way in the vagina! This sex position is called Churning The Butter in Tantric sex, and it can send her into multiple, ongoing orgasm. Another variation is to use eight shallow thrusts followed by one deep one. The shallow thrust should just press on her G spot, so don't go more than a couple of inches into her vagina when you try this.
Another good idea for her to reach orgasm is to have her sitting on a table or, alternatively, any other surface where you can enter her vagina as you stand in front of her with her legs apart. making love in this position is great because you can thrust into her while you kiss and hold each other. If you want to increase the chances of her reaching orgasm, apply a little extra clitoral stimulation. In any case, in this position your regular thrusting may stimulate her G spot in the way needed to bring her to a rapid climax. It's also a lot more stimulating to be having sex in an unusual position and somewhere other than the bedroom. The added arousal can help take you both to a quicker and more powerful orgasm.
Next, there's a very loving sex position known as the "spoons" position. She lies on her side with her back towards you, while you enter her from behind. This is a very easy sex position to get into, particularly if she lifts her upper leg slightly while you push into her. The best thing about this sexual position is how good it feels - for both of you. You can reach around her, caress her breasts, and kiss back, while she (or you) can play with her clitoris. Another great addition to this position is the opportunity to make love on your sides as you face each other.
The best way to get into the facing side by side sex position is by starting from the man on top, have her raise her knees towards her chest and then roll over onto your sides (agree which way you're going first!)). You can keep thrusting for much longer in this position before you come, as there's much less pressure on your penis. And, with the right attention, and perhaps a helping hand on her clitoris, she will reach orgasm before you do, so you can have the pleasure of being triggered into your own orgasm by feeling her coming around your penis inside her vagina.
And lastly, what about the thrill of the rear entry sex position? This primal position is many men's favorite position for sex, being so rude and raunchy, and men often come quickly. But many like it too, and there are plenty of good reasons for this. It allows deep penetration, it permits her to express her sexuality to the full, letting her thrust and ride her lover as she wishes, and, above all, it hits her G spot! Rear entry sex is very primal, particularly if you reach forward and hold her hips and direct her movements. If she raises or lowers her hips, you'll get a lot of exciting variation in sensation - so you can find the precise position that gives you both the greatest pleasure.
There you are, then: a series of sex positions which give you a chance of the woman's orgasm during sex. But if you're the man, and these positions don't make her reach orgasm on their own, don't worry. Help her enjoy an orgasm from oral sex or a hand job before you enter her, and you'll both be abe to enjoy sex to the full.
Orgasm during intercourse feels great, but remember there are plenty of other ways of getting orgasmic satisfaction!
Rod Phillips owns Sex and You.
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