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Are you completely sure you want to do this? You can win back ex boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives, whatever it is you lost. All you need is to understand a few psychological phenomena. There are certain things you can do and say, that make it nearly impossible for someone you have a connection with to withstand.
We need to first analyze your relationship. If your relationship together was for less than 6 months, they might not be intered in a further relationship. Let it go, and find someone else. If you had longer than 6 months together, you can win back an ex with a carefully orchestrated plan.
Here is an important point, your ex does not want to be alone. People are pack animals, and nature dictates they find a mate. If they have time invested with you, it is not too late. Here is one of human nature factoids. If you want to win back an ex, you have to pretend you do not want them.
What I mean is this, call your ex and tell them you agree with the break up and it was a good idea. Then do not go further, do not explain, do not elaborate, and whatever you do, do not tell them you want to be friends. Allow them to believe it is over.
This next step is, make no contact for three to four weeks. No texting, email, asking their friends about them, comments on MySpace,nothing. Research has shown that loneliness peaks at about three weeks. This is when they are the most vulnerable. If they choose to contact you in that time frame, no problem, and most will, but you must not make first contact for three to four weeks, maybe even a little longer if you acted poorly at first.
Now you can call, once. Invite them for a short meeting, like lunch or a cup of coffee. Make sure you keep it at a short time limit. You want your ex to know they can escape, no party, family function, etc. When you meet keep it light. Act like you are meeting an old friend, because you are. Make your ex laugh, the sooner the better, then they will relax. After three weeks, your ex will have selective memory, and will have forgotten most of your faults and will only remember the good things about you.
Play on that, recall pleasant memories to your ex. This is important. Talk like your ex. Use the same words, tempo and tone that they do. Do they use picture words, sound words, or feeling words? (Like I see (picture) what you're saying. I hear (sound) what you're saying. What your saying feels good (feeling).) Use these same kinds of words back to them in the same pitch, tone, and tempo that they do.
Make yourself a mirror to their body movements and language. If they cross their legs, cross yours. If they lean to one side, do the same. But be subtle about it. Breath at the same rate that they do. After a couple minutes of pacing them, it is time to test and lead. Touch your ear, and see if they touch theirs. If they do, you have built enough rapport to clinch them back into your life.
Take it slow and learn more about human nature, you only have three weeks to learn everything you need to know. Develop a plan and learn all the secret psychological tricks of the trade.
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